Leadership Quote Challenge

"Before you can inspire with emotion, you must be swamped with it yourself. Before you can move their tears, your own must flow. To convince them, you must yourself believe."

Which one of these national leaders is credited for the above quote?
  1. Indira Gandhi
  2. Winston Churchill
  3. John F Kennedy
  4. Golda Meir
If you don't know for sure take a guess but no fair googling the answer.
I'll announce the correct answer in the comments in a day or so.

Medicare, Healthcare, Lobbyists and Casinos

Ann and I sat around our breakfast table this morning talking about a conversation that she recently had with a friend about Medicare. Of course Ann is a bit of an quazi-expert on the topic since our health insurance company dumped her when she became disabled - that is what insurance companies do when a person goes on a procedure like hemodialysis or is disabled by illness or accident. Their lobbyists made it happen years ago.

Our conversation reminded me of this comment that I left on a friends blog when his insurance company reneged on a $7,000 payment they had made for a medical procedure:
  • Insurance companies have the same business model as our local casinos. Rarely does anyone ever beat the house because the proverbial deck is stacked against clients of these companies.
  • I do not know why so many Americans advocate for companies that do not have products or services and act so badly when someone makes a claim.
The insurance industry has a very strong lobby in Washington, DC. They have been lobbying for the government to relieve them of the difficult cases for many years. They have already gotten legislation passed to exempt them from covering senior citizens, the disabled and many costly procedures (like hemodialysis ) and they do not want to cover people with preexisting conditions. They are a bit like the people who run the casinos in Vegas..

So when I read about lawmakers wanting to privatize Medicare I wonder what the insurance lobby thinks about that since seniors are not really a demographic that these companies are aggressively pursuing. Will lawmakers also opt to dump the disabled from Medicare roles? I am wondering what insurance companies will even insure such people. Color me confused.

Hotels love the Planet


Have you ever stayed at a hotel and found a "save our planet" placard on your bed? Often these guilt signs play on our do-gooder desires and try to guilt us into reusing towels and sheets.

I guess that is why I love the message on this placard. I mean really - everybody knows that hotels are only concerned about the bottom line and not the planet. And it is much better for them if we reuse dirty towels and save them a load in the clothes washer and dryer.

Have you ever been guilted into reusing dirty towels by environmental bed signs?

Saying Goodbye

I cried last month after visiting a friend as he lay in a hospital bed surviving with dialysis and respirator technologies. I somehow knew that I was saying a last goodbye to a friend. My friend has chosen to remove the respirator this morning and will pass onto the next life in the company of his family. I dedicate these quotes to this wonderful and godly man:
We only part to meet again. -John Gay

Only in the agony of parting do we look into the depths of love. -George Eliot

The reason it hurts so much to separate is because our souls are connected. -Nicholas Sparks

Sweet is the memory of distant friends! Like the mellow rays of the departing sun, it falls tenderly, yet sadly, on the heart. -Washington Irving

Never part without loving words to think of during your absence. It may be that you will not meet again in this life. -Jean Paul Richter

Farewell! a word that must be, and hath been. A sound which makes us linger;
Yet - farewell! -Lord Byron
Yet, to my friend I do not say farewell or goodbye but simply until we meet again.

Restrictions :: Violent Video Games vs Violent Movies

ZDNet recently reported on how the US Supreme Court ruled on a California law enacted in 2005 (but never enforced) that banned selling violent video games to children. The court ruled in favor of video gaming concerns by a 7-2 margin. Here is an excerpt from the article:
Writing for the majority, Justice Antonin Scalia called California’s law “seriously overinclusive because it abridges the First Amendment rights of young people whose parents…think violent video games are a harmless pastime.”

In a dissenting opinion, Justice Stephen Breyer wrote, “The First Amendment does not disable government from helping parents make such a choice here — a choice not to have their children buy extremely violent, interactive games.”

But more importantly, the court ruled in a precedent-setting decision that video games are entitled to the same protection as other forms of speech, such as books, plays and movies.

The Court also took a swipe at the argument that violent video games are harmful to children - a central argument of Senator Yee, the child psychologist turned politician who sponsored the law. In their ruling, the Supreme Court said studies showing studies linking violent video games and violent behavior in children “do not prove that such exposure causes minors to act aggressively.”
The ruling surfaces the issues of whether legislatures should involve themselves in such matters. Yet I wonder where the high court would come down on allowing children to frequent R-rated movies at theaters without their parents. I guess I could be misunderstanding the issues at hand but the two scenrios seem quite similar to me.
Of course, some theaters probably do allow older children in to "R-rated" movies in the same way that some stores allow kids to buy "M-rated" games.

What do you think? Should the same rules apply for video games and movies?

Advice from Ike

This morning I came across President Eisenhower's farewell address given some 50 years ago. I thought that I would share a few excerpts from this wise man:
Our people expect their President and the Congress to find essential agreement on issues of great moment, the wise resolution of which will better shape the future of the nation.
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Crises there will continue to be. In meeting them, whether foreign or domestic, great or small, there is a recurring temptation to feel that some spectacular and costly action could become the miraculous solution to all current difficulties.
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We annually spend on military security alone more than the net income of all United States cooperations -- corporations. ... In the councils of government, we must guard against the acquisition of unwarranted influence, whether sought or unsought, by the military-industrial complex.
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The prospect of domination of the nation's scholars by Federal employment, project allocations, and the power of money is ever present -- and is gravely to be regarded.
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As we peer into society's future, we -- you and I, and our government -- must avoid the impulse to live only for today, plundering for our own ease and convenience the precious resources of tomorrow. We cannot mortgage the material assets of our grandchildren without risking the loss also of their political and spiritual heritage. We want democracy to survive for all generations to come, not to become the insolvent phantom of tomorrow.
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Disarmament, with mutual honor and confidence, is a continuing imperative. Together we must learn how to compose differences, not with arms, but with intellect and decent purpose. ... I wish I could say tonight that a lasting peace is in sight.
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You and I, my fellow citizens, need to be strong in our faith that all nations, under God, will reach the goal of peace with justice.
I think that President Eisenhower expressed the thoughts of a man who experienced the worst and best of humanity. He was experienced in war and in peace. When he speaks of congress and the federal government he does so with an understanding that these agencies are not the answers to the ills of our nation. In referencing the military-industrial complex he seems to understand the desires of those who thrive off of war.

I want our governmental leaders today to heed President Eisenhower's warning about mortgaging the material assets of our grandchildren. I want them, and world leaders everywhere, to hear his words of disarmament and peace. And I echo his thought about not having a lasting peace in sight - though I fervently pray for it.

Tomorrow Begins Today!


I liked this poem. It speaks to me about how what we do today impacts the future. Love the idea of reaping what we sow - reminds me to sow compassion today. Also love the idea that tough people never quit. So, as the sayings goes, don't stop dreaming about tomorrow.

Sweet 16 and Counting

This picture was taken a few years ago when Ann and I celebrated our anniversary in Vail, Colorado. Today we celebrate number 16 and our love and commitment to each other could not be stronger.
As Ann's hair falls out this week from her chemo treatment I am reminded of the inner beauty that I was drawn to so many years ago. Call me blessed, or the luckiest man alive, but I cannot believe the many ways that God has enriched my life with Ann.

80 is the new 65? A New Retirement Paradigm

80 is the new 65? That is what this Christian Monitor post seems to say. The article makes a few points concerning retirement, Social Security and extended life spans.

Consider these points that they make about Social Security:
  • In 1935, when the Social Security Act was passed by Congress and signed by President Roosevelt, the new law established a national retirement age of 65.
  • In 1935, the average American lifespan was 61.7.
  • The “retirement age” set by Social Security is still 65. However, today the average American lifespan is 78 years and continuing to rise.
  • The national “retirement age” of 65 has remained unchanged for 75 years, but the lifespan of the average American has gone up by 16 years.
  • This is an easy explanation for why Social Security is seeing financial problems.
They also make these points about what retirement looks like today:
  • If you’re under 50 or so, you’re probably not going to be able to retire when you’re 65.
  • Most people between the ages of 65 and, say, 80 are quite valuable and have a ton to offer in the workplace and in the marketplace.
  • Don’t view retirement planning as saving for true retirement. Look at retirement planning as building a backbone for a second career.
  • Retirement savings aren’t just for retirement; instead, they create possibilities for a second career or other opportunities later on during my healthy adult life.
Now that is certainly a different perspective on retirement than the one that my parents had - and it is different than mine as well. It reminds me of a friend who says that he will work until he dies. Also reminds me of the many times that I have seen a senior citizen busing tables at a fast food joint. So I do wonder what these new second careers will look like.

So I have to ask you: What does retirement mean to you? Does having a second career when you hit 65 sound like a good idea? When you are 65 do you think that you will feel like you are 45 like the article says? I'd give you my answers but don't want to depress you.

Adult Toys that bring out the Crazy in Us


Can you even imagine a computer that costs $150,000? Such is the case of this iPad that can be customized with shades of gold and assorted gems. It reminds me of how we can be so fixated on having the latest and the greatest cell phone, laptop, gigantic flat screen television or video gaming system. I wonder what it is about these adult toys that bring out the crazy in us?

Lessons my Son has taught Me



On Father's Day my thoughts go to that day when I became a father in July 1980. I cannot really describe what that day was like and did not have a clue about how this baby boy would impact and change my whole life. So today I thought that I would share a few thoughts about my son Matt and the lessons that he has taught me:
  • Courage: It was so hard to see Matt go back to Iraq for a second year long tour when he could have stayed stateside. He could have taken the easy way out but did not.
  • Commitment: He is such a loyal friend - he always has been. His decision to return to Iraq had everything to do with his commitment to his military comrades and to our country.
  • Optimism: Matt is an amazing optimist. He does not stay down very long. He has taught me to believe the best about a bad situation and see God in pain and suffering.
  • Vision: Matt started an oil company while serving his first tour in Iraq. I could hardly believe that he was doing that. It seemed so wild. He hit oil on two wells this year already.
  • Compassion: My son has such a heart for the Lord. When he talks about being successful he always speaks of ways of giving back to our country and the Lord..
  • Persistence: I attended Matt's graduation from a Christian university last month and felt so proud. He used the GI Bill to complete his studies. He could have given up but pressed on through difficult times and got his degree.
  • Love: The bible says that great love is measured by the way that we lay down our lives for others. I see this kind of love in my son and I am thankful.
So on this day in which we celebrate fathers I want to offer my thanks to the Father for my son Matt and my daughter Susie. Words seem inadequate to express my love for them.


The Criticism Filter

Therese Borchard writes a mental health blog for BeliefNet titled Beyond Blue. Recently she posted about not taking criticism personally where she quotes don Miguel Ruiz saying:
“Even when a situation seems so personal, even if others insult you directly, it has nothing to do with you. What they say, what they do, and the opinions they give are according to the agreements in their own minds.”
This quote is packed with wisdom and is so healthy - not that it is easy to do. Yet I find that it is so important in life to really filter what people say to me. Often I can be so sensitive and take things the wrong way. And when my filter is out of order I can blow comments way out of proportion because I have believed and owned what they have said.

And about that criticism filter - one of the holes in it is insecurity and another is fear. I am not as insecure or fearful as I once was but I still struggle on occasion. And when I struggle I react to criticisms differently than when my filter is fully functional. So for me, a bad reaction to criticism helps me to examine my filter and find out why it is not working.

What kind of holes do you have in your criticism filter?

Political Food and Friendships

Opened my email junk folder where I found a few notes from politicians and their cohorts wanting to be my friend. I just love how these messages involve all sorts of personal lingo. Consider these excerpts from a self professed Tea Party leader in South Carolina:
After watching tonight’s New Hampshire debate, I couldn’t help but think: Newt is the candidate we need fighting for us.

Newt is the only candidate offering solutions as big as our challenges. And just as important, he has a long record of making them a reality.
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So tonight, I donated $25 to help make sure we can get him there.
I laughed inside when I saw that one of the Tea Party leaders was backing Newt with a whopping $25. How sad that such a "leader" had so little financial commitment to her candidate. Of course she was wanting me, a non-leader, to match her sacrificial gift.


Of course this sort of stuff in not limited to Tea Party Republicans. And lest Democrats smirk, I give you these excerpts from an email I received from the top guy himself:
I've set aside time for four supporters like you to join me for dinner
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So if you make a donation today, you'll be automatically entered for a chance to be one of the four supporters to sit down with me for dinner.
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We'll pay for your flight and the dinner -- all you need to bring is your story and your ideas about how we can continue to make this a better country for all Americans.
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This won't be a formal affair. It's the kind of casual meal among friends that I don't get to have as often as I'd like anymore, so I hope you'll consider joining me.
Now I think that sounded a bit like an invitation to play the lottery with the top prize being burgers and fries with the prez. Still, it is pretty early in the campaign season. Maybe better offers of political food and friendship will show up in my junk folder in the days ahead?

Password Hygiene

Have you ever had your email account hacked or been spammed by someone who has?
If so you might be interested in a post published by The How-To-Geek. The post, titled
How To Recover After Your Email Password Is Compromised, is a good read for anyone who has had their email account hacked. Here are a few tips from the geek:
  • Change your password to something completely different than your previous password. Make it a combination of alphanumeric characters and if need be temporarily write it down. The important thing is that you secure your email immediately with a strong password.
  • Go through the settings on your email account to make sure nothing is out of the ordinary.
  • Get a password manager. Not using a password manager is like refusing to use a calculator and solving all math problems long hand.
  • Search your email for registration reminders. There are likely dozens of outlaying services that you may not even remember that you use your email to log into.
  • Use strong passwords. Do not use dictionary words as part of your password. Use passphrases instead of passwords. Always use a unique password for each service.
I recommend that you read the Geek's post entirely. And if you are on Facebook you can follow his writings by simply liking his page. I know that I regularly get spammed messages from friends who are very surprised when I send a reply back to them saying that their account was hacked. Do you have any stories about being hacked?