Remembering Ellen

It was weird walking over to that grave marker a few days ago. I had not been there for a few years. The National Cemetery is such a peaceful and beautiful place. One of the few veterans benefits that I have used. Just seeing my name on the marker was a bit surreal. Walking over to it brought back so many memories of the first time I was here so many years ago - today marks twenty years when my first wife Ellen passed away.

What I most remember about Ellen was her zeal and zest for life. And her love for the Lord. She was a wonderful wife and mom who brought joy into our home every day. I remember that day when her heart and kidneys failed at age 39. I will always remember the courageous ways that she faced adversity in those last four years. Our twenty-three years together shaped me so much as a man and as a follower of Jesus. I will always be thankful for the way that God brought us together and the impact she had on my life.


  1. Precious memories. She was an important chapter in your life. So young. thank you for sharing something so intimate with us.

  2. What treasured memories. The Lord knew the man she needed in those difficult years. Blessings and hugs.

  3. Bless you, and your treasured memories.

  4. May all your memories be pleasant and bring you blessing.

  5. A few comments from Facebook that I want to capture here ...

    I remember and wipe away a tear as I type this. Very gracious and courageous person. -Gary

    I still remember the loving tribute you gave at her funeral. Took a lot of strength in your grief. Very moving. -Laurie

    Wow! Has it really been 20 years? I think about Ellen often Bob. She was such a very dear friend. She taught me so much about strength, faith and endurance. Even after 20 years, I still miss her. Thank you for the reminder. -Vicki

    Beautiful tribute. Though I never got to meet Ellen I am always thankful for her life and will be giving her a big hug when we meet in heaven! -Susie

    I remember that period well and thank God for the wisdom and grace He gave you during that time. Ellen was deeply loved by all of us who knew her. I remember her with great joy and thank God for the impact she had on your life and all of our lives. -Ollie

    20 years ago I watched her take her last breath. It was such a bittersweet moment. No more suffering, and a chance for new love to fill our household. I wouldn't be the mother I am today without you and Ann. -My Daughter

  6. I remember Ellen would often compliment me on my education and intellect but, she had something far greater going on, a deep abiding love for the lord that few of us know. Itold her that often.

    1. Those were great days Belinda! Love our small group and get-togthers with our families.


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