The Top Five Regrets

Ever heard of the book, "The Top Five Regrets of the Dying", subtitled "A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing"? It was written by Bronnie Ware, an Australian nurse who spent several years caring for patients who were dying. She writes a popular blog called Inspiration and Chai. Here are the top five regrets listed from her blog (I suggest you read it all here) followed by my commentary on each:
  1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. | This might be one of the hardest lessons that anyone can learn in life. About ten years I started a journey of discovery that has helped me to live from my heart and be a bit more real. It has been a gut wrenching experience.
  2. I wish I hadn't worked so hard. | I suspect this is about people prioritizing their jobs over their families. Hard to argue with that but I wonder if some don't work hard because they don't like what they do?
  3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings. | I have never been one to repress feelings (I am from NYC) in an unhealthy way. I do wish that some folks would repress theirs. :)
  4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends. | I sometimes wonder what my life would have been like if I stayed in the New York area instead of migrating to Kansas City. Not sure that I would have been happier but life would be different.
  5. I wish that I had let myself be happier. | Interesting choice of words. I do think that happiness sometimes takes a lot of courage.
Bronnie ends with this wise admonition about life and regrets:
Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness.
Do you resonate with Bronnie's summary, any of these regrets or my comments? Any regrets to add to the list?


  1. I regret I was so hard on our kids for being (preacher's kids) I should have been more flexible with things that really didn't matter. I look back now, and see it was more for our image...than theirs. So glad as adults, they don't hold resentment to us for it.

  2. I can relate to wanting kids to be a reflection of us Wanda! Sometimes I think that they are but we don't like what they reflect. :)


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