tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-749955731953911627.post8974638405479548284..comments2023-11-02T04:53:05.386-05:00Comments on kc bob: Engagements: Short or Long?kc bobhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17440862813109808755noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-749955731953911627.post-65960888240724951232008-06-16T13:07:00.000-05:002008-06-16T13:07:00.000-05:00Great dialog here....two emotionally and mentally ...Great dialog here..<BR/><BR/>..two emotionally and mentally healthy people. -Missy<BR/><BR/>..share the change in seasons. -LTF<BR/><BR/>..once you're sure, get married ASAP. -Lynne<BR/><BR/>..especially were efforts to remain "pure" are concerend. -Scottkc bobhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17440862813109808755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-749955731953911627.post-22443686688484676922008-06-16T10:58:00.000-05:002008-06-16T10:58:00.000-05:00What do you think about this idea of marrying some...What do you think about this idea of marrying someone that you had not known prior to your wedding day.. and first kissed after you were married? <BR/><BR/>It's the way it's been done for a long time and is still done in some circles. Of course so is slavery. (I kid, I kid) I do think it's odd and would prescribe it for most, but I do think it's better than living together pre-nuptials.<BR/><BR/>How long do you think it takes to know someone well enough to walk down the aisle with them? <BR/><BR/>A lifetime. My wife and I knew one another for about three years or so before we got married. We dated for about ten months and were engaged for something like five or six? Anyway it was both too long and not long enough.<BR/><BR/>Do you think that long engagements are problematic?<BR/><BR/>They can be, especially were efforts to remain "pure" are concerend.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-749955731953911627.post-13234242790986390162008-06-13T21:30:00.000-05:002008-06-13T21:30:00.000-05:00No, i definitely couldn't marry someone I didn't a...No, i definitely couldn't marry someone I didn't already know -- there are a few specific things i'd have to be sure we connected on, or it would be a disaster. But then again, I probably don't fit the role of generic "wife" terribly well myself!<BR/><BR/>But engagements? i don't think they should be any longer than necessary for purely practical reasons.make sure it's the "right" person (whatever that means) then, once you're sure, get married ASAP. I really believe that prolonged engagements set up bad patterns of relating. We "went out" for 12 months, then had a 4 month engagement. the whole thing woulfd have been quicker, but we were both full time students when we met. We have now been married 31 years!Lynnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10982043538182690871noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-749955731953911627.post-56931798667084936472008-06-13T17:09:00.000-05:002008-06-13T17:09:00.000-05:00I could not marry someone I'd never met, unless sh...I could not marry someone I'd never met, unless she turned out to be Heidi Klum. <BR/>I think should know someone for a year before marrying them; share the change in seasons.<BR/>Long engagements are problematic. Necessary infatuation wanes and familiarity and bordom set in before love and committment really take root.<BR/>Signed, LTFAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-749955731953911627.post-23523843408305818192008-06-13T14:58:00.000-05:002008-06-13T14:58:00.000-05:00KB, I think a short engagement is best for two emo...KB, I think a short engagement is best for two emotionally and mentally healthy people.<BR/><BR/>If you have both of those things, you will most likely know if the other one does.<BR/><BR/>I had neither. :)Missyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16638784910676212171noreply@blogger.com