“When 97% of all sexual assaults, for example, are perpetuated by men — I think it’s high time we start calling this problem what it really is — a problem of manliness, or what it means to be 'a man'”.I like what Matt says. Man Up! (a program that enlists men as allies to women) offers this advice: Sexual violence is everyone’s problem. Here are five things men can do:
“Men really need to have some serious ‘man-to-man’ dialogue about abuse, sexuality, masculinity, boundaries, pornography, healthy relationships, victim-blaming, drug-facilitated rape, etc., etc., and all the influences that serve to define what it really is to ‘be a man’ nowadays.”
- Question your attitudes — understand how your attitudes and actions might inadvertently demean women and perpetuate sexual violence.
- Don’t be a silent bystander — if a brother, friend, co-worker or teammate is disrespectful to girls and women, don’t look the other way. Speak up.
- Mentor and teach young boys how to be respectful men who don’t degrade or abuse girls and women.
- Refuse to support any media (music, movies, magazines, Web sites, etc.) that degrade or promote the abuse of women.
- Be an ally to those working to end sexual violence. Support organizations and events publicly and financially.